Commitment

During one of our many nightly random aim conversations "Sharita" decides to pick my brain on the subject of commitment. The topic is so broad, yet very narrow when it comes to sides forming an opinion. Here is a conversation between "Sharita" and myself where we discuss the point of an commitment and the opinions each of us share.

Sharita:You know what I was thinking tho
Me: what?
Sharita:You should make a blog about commitment
Me:why should I make a blog about commitment?
Sharita: Lol
Sharita: Because everybody has diff views and problems with it today
Sharita: Excuse me if it may seem I'm implying anything but I'm not; you just seem to touch topics very well
Me: lol
Sharita: passing ideas
Sharita: just an idea is all
Me: cool
Sharita: thanks
Sharita: What do you think about it anyway if I can inquire
Me: *See's Bait*
Me: *Walks around it*
Sharita: OK forget it
Sharita: I don't even know why I asked
Me: but u did
Me: commitment is a positive and negative
Me: positive because it shows a person
Me: you are committed to what is trying to be accomplished in the relationship
and that you are putting your all into it.Negative because things can digress because too much focus is being placed on the relationship
Sharita: OK
Sharita: Females are culprits of doing both ... the negative mostly of course
Me: Commitments should never be done at a young age.P eople are still growing
and developing into their own person
Sharita: def
Me:but, what do I know?
Sharita: But it happens
Sharita: However there is a possibility a couple can grow together And with each other?
Me: that's true
Me: but in that same instance the mind is constantly growing and changing
Sharita: Yes
Me: which can lead people to grow apart
Sharita: I was about to say
Sharita: However nowadays I think, mainly females, commit more to the idea of what it could be or what they want it to be down the line
Sharita: Instead of the person they're with and the values of the relationship
see that's the problem
Me: why worry about what it could be?
Sharita: Exactly
Me: before it actually is, what's wrong with letting things flow?
Sharita: You're right
Sharita: But, Guys always commit to or can I say get comfortable with the idea of know that since their girl is "committed" to them they're always gonna be there,Or they feel they will And then run a muck
Me: most guys don't want to commit, because the majority still want whats out there. cake and eat it to situation or simply the female
Sharita: Oh yes
Me: isn't satisfying them or is satisfying them.yet they still feel there is better out there.
Sharita: Which leads to the infamous topic of cheating
Me: cheating is never going to cease!
Sharita: Which I don't think can ever be understood justified etc
Me: Cheating is all mental, a guy can stop cheating, it all comes down does he want to stop. A man is knows right from wrong, its more of a thrill like will I get caught
or if caught what will the consequences be....

Now I will stop the convo there because its slides of commitment and heads to a whole avenue, I'm not ready to ride down on this blog. Commitment is the biggest step in a relationship. Committing has always been a fear of many people, it brings me back to a blog that "JOY" wrote about the purpose of titles and such. Some like to be committed and some don't. I don't mind a commitment because it gives you almost a sense of security or shall I say safety blanket. My biggest fear of being committed was the fear of the person trying to put restraints on me or "Changing Me", When I say change trying to get me out of my bad habits or hanging with my boys. Now my question to you all is a commitment really necessary? or is it that something that society(Media Mostly) Pushes on us as an essential we need.

'Cuffin'...

Spring is usually the time when most guys dead their wifeys, Summer is usually when all the monkey's come out, fall is when you do just that fall back and winter is when you cuff. Hm mm How can one define cuffin', basically when you give up the game and fall back with that special person for a season only to dead them at the beginning of the spring. Now if your a female reading this and you see your mate or his friends say that he's cuffing you be alarmed, actually be very ALARMED. I'm a vivid away message reader when I'm on jive talk, simply because I'm black, which means I'm extremely NOSY. So it's always comedy when I see people like oh cuddled up with hubby or spending QT with hubby blah blah, all the while thinking to me wasn't YOU the same person with an away MSG similar to this "Love stinks, I give up on all males tired of trying" From the month of March through October. Now lets take a look at the different variations of cuffin', Cuddling, Quality Time and the L- Word.

Cuddling
This right here should be the first red flag, if all of sudden dude wants to hold you close and watch Sex in the city re runs and nibble on your ear, you should be a little concerned. You should definitely ask yourself why wasnt this negro holding me like that in the summer and if he responds its too hot, isn't that what Air conditioners are for. But the ultimate sign is after that climax is if you get pulled close then you should say I'm definitely getting cuffed.

Quality Time
Him : Whats up what you doing
Her : Nothing watching Bad girls club
Him: You wanna' come chill, go do something?

*Alert, Alert, Alert, Alert, Alert, Alert, Alert*
Honestly like c'mon if you've dude have never done anything more than sit on his bed and watch old martin season dvd's then get it on that should raise a flag



L-word
Love isn't a word that shouldn't be spread around like some germs, but it definitely is. How can a dude love you after 3 weeks and then suddenly dump you as soon as the weather changes.

I made this blog because I hate to see people be so naive in thinking that a relationship can change over the course of a 2 week span, How can you be so deeply hurt by a person then be madly in love, if you know anyone that YOU may think is a victim of cuffin point them in the direction of this blog.