Wednesday, April 22, 2009

The Pursuit of Happiness: Relationship edition

In the begining there was the female edition, followed closely by the male edition.

"Girl, well you know we've been dating for 8 years, you've been there through almost everything in my life and I want to make you my wife. Will you Marry me?"

Now I'm sure these are words every woman at some point in their life would love to hear, but how does one make it to marriage? Yes dating and sharing a boyfriend/girlfriend titles are good starts, but what initially makes a man want to throw away his little black book and come home to the same woman every night?

When two people decide to get into a relationship its because they have a great amount of feelings for each other and would like to pursue those feelings into something more prosperous. A long the way those feelings may prosper or decrease due to a number of factors. When you first meet someone you meet their Representative and not the true them. The representative shows up and lures the person in to the point where they are blinded by the true individual. But like anything in life the truth always comes to the light leaving the partner to decide if they want to stay or go. However what if before you got into a relationship you had a checklist to review sort of like going grocery shopping. YUP! thats right I will provide you with that list so when you go shopping your able to pick out the fresh from the ripe.

Intelligence - Now, I'm sure we're all vivid watchers of for the love of Ray J, Flava of love and every other crappy Vh1 reality tv show, hell we're all bloggers it somewhere in the guidelines to like each of those shows. Well if watching the show you go he/she cant be smarter than the grapes or banana shes eatting. We all want to appear to be somewhat smarter than we really are thats why we use bigger words than normal or watch the discovery channel to gain to that knowledge so we can talk about something other than New Yorks boob job or why flava wears that viking hat.

Finance -
I'm sure the corner store hero's are an excellent choice for a late night snack or ray's pizza shack might have the best slices in the city but when courting a young lady is this really the place you want to take her to start off a relationship. Now I know the guys are think "J.O what if shes a gold digger?" chances ar if she's a G.D once u pull up to either spot she will spazz on you and bounce. I know most of us arent jayz or 50 status but atleast be better than ODB status.

L.O.C- Lines of Communication.
The leading cause of Break ups is communication. Communicating is more than just speaking, the art of listening is almost lost in todays society. Today everybody wants to be heard and doenst want to listen. Many of divorces and child support cases could've just been avoided if the lines were open more and people took the time to understand where each other was coming from.

Apperance -
We all have that bad hair day, Laundry day, or the the F it day, but if your having those kind of days more than 4 times a week chances are your spouse wont find you attractive and when be will in the words of TLC choosing to "Creep". No you dont have to be tyson beckford or beyonce everyday but try to realize when you went and got that fresh cut to impress shorty or when you paid selena at the domincan spot 60 cash for that wash & set you were making a statement that you cared about your appearance. Taking ME time will save any relationship.

the biggest man or woman in life is the one that can admit to his or her mistakes. I hate to see people in life go around blaming peoples for their mistakes. If your 30 still living in your moms basement she isnt the blame you are. If you went to the club and have 3 patron shots and at the end of the night kissed 5 guys and had sex with your roomates man your the blame not your roomate man. If you can take responsiblity for your actions relationship will flow alot smoother.

Men Lie woman lie, but the first time you lie break up, its over, Seriously. Relationships in order to work need an enomorous amount of trust so once you break that rule and get away with the first lie your going to keep going and going and going until you get caught. The worst part about lying is keeping up with all the lies, thats why I try my hardest to always tell the truth. My brain has so much going on so keeping up with every lie would be damn near impossible.

This checklist is proven to work, I have applied it to my love life and so far we are doing great, apply these tips while I'm giving them out for free because soon I will be charging soon.


ShAy~SHaY said...

I soooo agree with this list...but its pretty basic knowledge. I think everyone knows all of this but people just dont apply it to their relationships

Miss.Stefanie said...

I agree with Shay- most couples do not apply these common sense/basic knowledge.

Dani B. said...

Everything was right on the money, that list is dead on, lol. Especially "trust," I know all about that personally. Reading this made me evaluate my relationship and we definitely apply all these to our relationship.

Yeah,this is definitely commen knowledge, but people feel that doing things a certain way will work all the time,but it won't

Thanks for the free tips! lol

Luxe said...

Excellent list. It may seem like common sense, but who says common sense was common? :^)

ChoColAte KiSs said...

Now i agree with your list...
I mean we hear these type things all the time...

the thing im stuck on is $60.00 at the Dominican spot for a wash and set...wo wo wo i know u exaggerated but you could have consulted monk for a milder exxageration...lmao...$20.00...or its a no go!!

Assertive Wit said...

good checklist!

JOFre$h said...

Shay: I do agree its very basic, hell extremely basic, but at the same time many people weren't aware.

Stef: Just helping love continue

Dani: thanks. Trust is a major issue if you cant trust your mate why be with them.

Luxe: Common sense is not common at all.

Chocolate: I'm sorry i did go a lil over board.

Assertive: thank you

Lyrik Marie said...

You'll make alot of money J.0 .. As far the check list . [L.0.C] has to be my favorite .. Very good blog J !

JOFre$h said...

Thanks lyrik